How do you teach kids to share? That's the eternal parenting question.
There is a lot of standard "teaching kids how to share" advice out there. I usually goes like this:
- Praise good sharing behavior.
- Play turn-taking games
- Create rewards for sharing
But, teaching kids how to share is not really as easy as reading a list of suggestions.
I'm sure you already know that, which is why your reading yet another article on children learning how to share.
It would be the understatement of the century to say that my son does not like sharing. Seriously, his fear of other kids touching or even looking at his toys is quite severe.
Now, I don't think that kids need to be able to share everything. In fact, I think it's perfectly acceptable for kids not to want to share all their toys and I don't force the issue. However, it would be nice if my son could sometimes play with the other kids at the park without having a breakdown.
Meet THE SHARING BALL.
One day I informed my son that we were going to purchase 2 new balls. This created a lot of excitement.
However, these I informed him that these two balls were only to be played with with other kids. I took a Sharpie and tattooed them with a few words to serve as a reminder.
I'm sure the sharing balls won't solve the problem completely, but now we can actually contribute some toys to park play dates. Up until now my kid has adamantly refused to bring his own toys because, Heaven forbid, another kid might touch them.
So, give it a try. It's okay for your kids to have special toys they don't want to share, but mark a few items that are only for sharing and see how it goes.